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Birth of Angel...30.10.2007



(Reflect if you are married; share it with a friend if you are not !...)

Greetings !

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, PRESSURE from others or a low-self esteem make you blind to warning signs.

The heart has its reasons that reason knows nothing of...

Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

What is yours is mine, and all mine is yours!..

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You & your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual CHILDREN OF GOD who have decided to share a life together.

Neither one of you are perfect. But are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you COMPETE, COMPARE, AND CONTROL?

What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?...

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. 

You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

What keeps a relationship strong?

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?... Communication, Intimacy, Trust, A sense of humor, Sharing household tasks, Some getaway time without business or children, Daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note), Leaving a nice message or sending a nice email, Sharing common goals and interests.

Growth is important.

Growth is important. GROW TOGETHER, NOT AWAY FROM EACH OTHER, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interests. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another.


Learn to accept each others families regardless of the situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember, for Richer or for Poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain will replace the passion.

"Be as innocent as the dove but as wise as the serpent."


"Share what you know, learn what you don't"


"Bitter things do happen, but that should not make our hearts sour or make us stop LOVING."

"Above all trust in GOD and grow Spiritually."

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